Monogynic Love
Men feel monogynic love when they "fall in love".
When a couple "falls in love", men feel monogynic love and women feel infatuation. Men do not feel infatuation and women do not love men.
Monogynic love and infatuation have different motivations and durations.
Monogynic love rewards men for making their women happy. Infatuation rewards women for being sexually appealing to their men. This difference produces very different behavior. Men in love spend money on their women to make them happy. Infatuated women spend money on themselves to be more appealing to their men.
Monogynic love lasts 38 months longer than infatuation. Men stop feeling monogynic love for a woman 46 months after meeting her. Women stop feeling infatuation for a man 8 months after meeting him.
After monogynic love and infatuation end, both genders continue to feel the weaker positive emotion of affection – which is often mistaken as a weaker form of love. Affection has unlimited duration and grows stronger the longer you have known someone. Couples who have been together for decades feel affection as strong as weak love or infatuation.
Men can only fall in love with strangers.
Men can only fall in love with strangers or women they have met recently. Said another way, men cannot fall in love with friends or old flames.
A man who wants to fall in love should enter new social circles where all of the women are strangers. A woman who wants a man to fall in love with her should also enter new social circles where she will be a stranger to all of the men.
Men fall in love after 4 months.
Men fall in love with a woman after 4 months – if she meets two requirements throughout the 4 months.
First, the woman must show an hourglass figure. She does not need a perfect figure. And she does not need to be nude or in a bikini. She only needs to show a clothed silhouette that has the basic outline of an hourglass figure. (See visual/audible pleasure for more detail.)
Second, she must interact at least 40 hours a week with the man. The interaction must involve eye contact and talking. Texting and emails do not count.
Men do not need to have sex with a woman to fall in love with her. Having sex can help because it involves face-to-face interaction and shows a woman's hourglass figure. However, an intimate dinner and the right dress can have the same effect.
Men in love are happy slaves.
While men are in love, they feel a strong positive mental effect whenever they conclude "my woman is happy" – effectively turning them into happy slaves to their women. The more presents a man in love gives his woman, the happier he is.
Men in love cannot fall love with another woman.
While men are in love with one woman they cannot fall in love with another woman – hence the name monogynic. This means a man will be social monogamous, but it does not mean that he will necessarily be sexually monogamous. They will focus their support on one woman, buy may still cheat sexually.
Although they may cheat, men in love are more reluctant to cheat than men who have fallen out of love. If they are caught, their woman will be unhappy and they will stop feeling monogynic love.
Men fall out of love after 4 years.
Men fall out of love about 4 years after meeting a woman. More specifically, they stop feeling monogynic love after 46 months – they fall in love after 4 months and stay in love for 42 months.
After 4 years, men do continue to feel the weaker positive emotion of affection. In addition to being weaker, affection motivates men differently. While love rewards men for making a woman happy, affection rewards men just for being with a woman – whether she is happy or not.
After 4 years, men can fall in love with another woman.
Men should expect to fall out of love after 4 years.
Men who fall in love will become less happy about 4 years after meeting a woman they fall in love with. They should not attribute their unhappiness to some other issue and then mistakenly change that other issue. They should not, for example, blame their career and change their jobs. More importantly, they should not blame the woman they loved. It does not matter who she is or what she did, they would have stopped feeling love for her.
Men can feel love again by falling in love with a new woman. However, they will end up in the same situation 4 years later. And they will only feel the moderate affection that a 4 year relationship makes you feel. If a man stays with one woman, he will feel the stronger affection that an 8 year or more relationship makes you feel.
Marriage decisions are better made after 4 years.
Romantic emotions temporarily make the other person more appealing. Infatuation makes a woman keen to be sexually appealing to a particular man for 8 months. Monogynic love makes a man keen to make a woman happy for 42 months.
After 4 years of a relationship, both romantic emotions have stopped allowing each partner to revert to their normal personalities. At that point, the person you see is what you get long term. If you still like them enough to marry them, you probably should. There is no reason to expect change in that person or how you feel about them.
Gay relationships are the strongest.
Gay relationships are two partners feeling monogynic love for 4 years. Lesbian relationships are the least stable. Both partners only feel infatuation for about 1 year. Heterosexual relationships are somewhere between gay and lesbian relationships. One partner feels love for 4 years but the other only feels infatuation for about 1 year.
When a couple "falls in love", men feel monogynic love and women feel infatuation. Men do not feel infatuation and women do not love men.
Monogynic love and infatuation have different motivations and durations.
Monogynic love rewards men for making their women happy. Infatuation rewards women for being sexually appealing to their men. This difference produces very different behavior. Men in love spend money on their women to make them happy. Infatuated women spend money on themselves to be more appealing to their men.
Monogynic love lasts 38 months longer than infatuation. Men stop feeling monogynic love for a woman 46 months after meeting her. Women stop feeling infatuation for a man 8 months after meeting him.
After monogynic love and infatuation end, both genders continue to feel the weaker positive emotion of affection – which is often mistaken as a weaker form of love. Affection has unlimited duration and grows stronger the longer you have known someone. Couples who have been together for decades feel affection as strong as weak love or infatuation.
Men can only fall in love with strangers.
Men can only fall in love with strangers or women they have met recently. Said another way, men cannot fall in love with friends or old flames.
A man who wants to fall in love should enter new social circles where all of the women are strangers. A woman who wants a man to fall in love with her should also enter new social circles where she will be a stranger to all of the men.
Men fall in love after 4 months.
Men fall in love with a woman after 4 months – if she meets two requirements throughout the 4 months.
First, the woman must show an hourglass figure. She does not need a perfect figure. And she does not need to be nude or in a bikini. She only needs to show a clothed silhouette that has the basic outline of an hourglass figure. (See visual/audible pleasure for more detail.)
Second, she must interact at least 40 hours a week with the man. The interaction must involve eye contact and talking. Texting and emails do not count.
Men do not need to have sex with a woman to fall in love with her. Having sex can help because it involves face-to-face interaction and shows a woman's hourglass figure. However, an intimate dinner and the right dress can have the same effect.
Men in love are happy slaves.
While men are in love, they feel a strong positive mental effect whenever they conclude "my woman is happy" – effectively turning them into happy slaves to their women. The more presents a man in love gives his woman, the happier he is.
Men in love cannot fall love with another woman.
While men are in love with one woman they cannot fall in love with another woman – hence the name monogynic. This means a man will be social monogamous, but it does not mean that he will necessarily be sexually monogamous. They will focus their support on one woman, buy may still cheat sexually.
Although they may cheat, men in love are more reluctant to cheat than men who have fallen out of love. If they are caught, their woman will be unhappy and they will stop feeling monogynic love.
Men fall out of love after 4 years.
Men fall out of love about 4 years after meeting a woman. More specifically, they stop feeling monogynic love after 46 months – they fall in love after 4 months and stay in love for 42 months.
After 4 years, men do continue to feel the weaker positive emotion of affection. In addition to being weaker, affection motivates men differently. While love rewards men for making a woman happy, affection rewards men just for being with a woman – whether she is happy or not.
After 4 years, men can fall in love with another woman.
Men should expect to fall out of love after 4 years.
Men who fall in love will become less happy about 4 years after meeting a woman they fall in love with. They should not attribute their unhappiness to some other issue and then mistakenly change that other issue. They should not, for example, blame their career and change their jobs. More importantly, they should not blame the woman they loved. It does not matter who she is or what she did, they would have stopped feeling love for her.
Men can feel love again by falling in love with a new woman. However, they will end up in the same situation 4 years later. And they will only feel the moderate affection that a 4 year relationship makes you feel. If a man stays with one woman, he will feel the stronger affection that an 8 year or more relationship makes you feel.
Marriage decisions are better made after 4 years.
Romantic emotions temporarily make the other person more appealing. Infatuation makes a woman keen to be sexually appealing to a particular man for 8 months. Monogynic love makes a man keen to make a woman happy for 42 months.
After 4 years of a relationship, both romantic emotions have stopped allowing each partner to revert to their normal personalities. At that point, the person you see is what you get long term. If you still like them enough to marry them, you probably should. There is no reason to expect change in that person or how you feel about them.
Gay relationships are the strongest.
Gay relationships are two partners feeling monogynic love for 4 years. Lesbian relationships are the least stable. Both partners only feel infatuation for about 1 year. Heterosexual relationships are somewhere between gay and lesbian relationships. One partner feels love for 4 years but the other only feels infatuation for about 1 year.
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